EKURWE: OPEN LETTER TO THE YOUTHS OF AN ANONYMOUS KINGDOM 06
You are sexually immoral and, worst still, without boundaries—shameless hero and heroine. I wish what is happening now would only be in my dreams and never in the real world. How I wish, when I wake, I would see and experience a different scene altogether.
Somebody should take me to the times when a married person is viewed as sacred. Take me to the time when advances will be made to a married person, and at the mention of “I am married”, the person advancing will withdraw shamefully and apologise. Take me to the time when a young boy is termed irresponsible if he is regularly in the company of married women. Take me to the time when a married woman is warned seriously if she is fond of a particular boy. In those good old days, no one cared or thought about DNA tests because it was a severe taboo to have a child that was not a pure breed of the family. I wouldn’t say I like this time when young people hobnob or mingle with married people with reckless impunity and are shamelessly proud of it.
Almost every living thing has boundaries set by themselves for easy intrarelationship or interrelationship. Even in the animal kingdom, discern-mating is done. No matter how attractive a goat is, the attraction does not mean anything to dogs. It’s a restraining instinct, if you want to call it.
No sane society disregards the sacredness of marriage. Traditionally, sets of codes guide the terms of the relationship between married couples and others. The family and marriage relationship is the engine room designed for the sanctity of procreation. Such a reproduction mechanism should be considered sacred and authentic to the particular family stock. A horse’s offspring is not supposed to have any traits of a buffalo or any resemblance.
In the evolving landscape of societal norms and values, where everything matters less, where people do as they feel good without recourse to the laid down principle of sanctity, there is a distressing proclivity among the youths to embrace sexual immorality with no regard for married people. The erosion of sexual boundaries in relationships has caused the loss of reverence for marriage institutions. Why hunt for people’s wives and husbands as if you are hunting for antelope? What a shameless venture! Why have we suddenly forgotten our cherished culture of sexual purity, even with our religious inclinations? We need to return to the basics and embrace fidelity and sexual discipline.
The changing landscape of morality or so-called modernisation has brought about a shift in perspectives on sexual emphasis. Let us travel back to the times when young people found it difficult to relate with married people talkless of sexual advances and relationship proposals. There is a general decline in fidelity within marital relationships, and what used to be taboo is considered normal now.
The erosion of boundaries in the realm of sexual morality can have profound consequences on marital bonds. Trust, a cornerstone of any successful marriage, is jeopardised. The breakdown of trust can lead to emotional distance, communication barriers, and, ultimately, the dissolution of marriages that were once considered unbreakable. By prioritising the sanctity of marital bonds and valuing commitment, individuals and societies can work towards restoring the foundations of enduring, fulfilling relationships that stand the test of time.
Young people, you have everything to lose if your goal is to go after people’s wives or husbands. Sexual immorality without bounds transports you from the world of humans to the animal kingdom. Sexual immorality is terrible and in no form should be endorsed, but its expression without boundaries is worse and a recipe for polluted posterity. How do you combine that with your religious activities, hypocrite?
What kind of society are we preparing to hand over to the next generation? A society where married and unmarried are levelled sexually alike?
Dey dere dey play and forget about the law of sowing and reaping.
10-open letters, 4 more to go.
Dated 8th December, 2023
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